The truth is that love isn’t based on these superficial things to begin with but it has become very popular belief that if you do not have the above you will not be able to attract someone who will love you. This is false and the proof can be seen everywhere if you just decide to look around you.

Every day tons of people get divorced and cheat on what would appear to be perfect relationships but in order for love to thrive there has to be a constant level of attraction, otherwise eventually the person your with will start to become unhappy.

In order to find love and maintain love (yes.. love needs maintenance) you need to understand how attraction works and how to maintain a high level of attraction at all times.

Think about some of the things you have heard before… things such as “be a challenge” and “call after 3 days”, all these things are ways to keep attraction high. Once you understand the science behind it all, attraction and finding that true love becomes a matter of time and effort.

Media and society have given us a false understanding of love. It is not a fairy tale and it doesn’t just happen. People don’t just fall in love, they may think that but its purely based on certain circumstances that lead to creating a high level of attraction.

Because attraction is such a vast topic and it would take 100 articles just to break it down and explain the techniques and concepts I would recommend just picking up an Ebook that will spoon feed all the info for you. Ebooks usually offer a ton of value and present information in easy to understand format that can be applied immediately for results….

Flirting is done in two main ways. Through conversation and through touch. Conversational flirting can be done by teasing, complimenting or role playing. Conversational flirting is usually escalated to the more powerful form of flirting, touch. Touch is powerful because our bodies respond much differently to touch then to words. Touch also demonstrates trust and comfort and it’s also a lot more fun assuming both people involved are at the same comfort stage with each other.

When your first flirting with someone and you don’t know them very well you will want to stick to conversational flirting and before you do any conversational flirting make sure you have the basics out of the way, like names and other basic info that is required when first introducing yourself to a person otherwise things may get awkward. You want to build that initial trust and then you can escalate to playful teasing and a compliment here and there. If you get positive responses you can escalate this to light touching on the hands, high fiving, nonsexual hugs and so forth. It’s all about building trust as well as building that sexual tension.

Flirting can be exciting and fun but its important to stay within your limits and not to over do it. If you sense the person your flirting with is uncomfortable then take a step back and start over. Only move forward when you sense that the other person is ready, the last thing you want to do is come of creepy and weird.

To get a better understand and to fully grasp the power of flirting and attraction I would recommend picking up an Ebook on the topic. You can get step - by - step guides to just about every situation and learn a lot of neat techniques and secrets that very few know. Once you truly understand and master flirting it becomes much easier to date and start a relationship.

Tip 1) Join a group
Chances are your single because you lack the environment where you can actually meet men. This is the most common reason many women are single. Join a group, hobby or class that you enjoy and you’ll get the opportunity to meet a lot of men. Don’t be afraid to say hello and initiate the conversation. Most guys are afraid to speak to women and just because they aren’t approaching you doesn’t mean they don’t want to talk and get to know you more.

Tip 2) Take care of yourself
Dress for you body type and excercise regularly. This will not only make you feel healthier but it was also have a big impact on your confidence and overall image. Men will notice you more and will naturally become more attracted to you. Self improvement is key to getting anywhere in life and will greatly help in finding a boyfriend.

Tip 3) Join an online dating website
Online dating websites are full of men who simply don’t have the opportunity to meet women in real life or are to busy. You can get to know someone and decide if you want to meet with them. Don’t buy into the stereotypes because there are plenty of sane and sexy guys on these sites who share the same goals and interests as you.

Tip 4) Learn about attraction
Understanding how attraction works will help you use certain tricks and techniques that all men are susceptible to. Men are hard wired to be attracted to certain behavior and action and if you understand these things its a matter of carrying out a certain set of actions and you’ll be in full control. There are plenty of ebooks on the subject and I highly recommend you read one or two to really get up to speed, the information found in these books is simply invaluable.

1) Find passion for life
The truth is you should never place your happiness in another person because ultimately you will be dissapointed. Instead find something to be passionate about, a cause, hobby, job or idea that makes you glad your alive. Make friends who share the same interests and this will take care of the loneliness. Socialize with everyone and build your own social circle, this will help you in all aspects of life.

2) Get rid of things that make you unhappy
Maybe its your job, your weight or your environment. The reality is that you can CHANGE whatever is making you unhappy. It is simply fear that keeps us from making changes in life. If you are unahppy with you job then get a new job and don’t make excuses about how you can’t… this is how you’ll get stuck and remain unhappy for the rest of your life. You may find that once you start making these changes you won’t even care so much that your single because the quality of your life has improved so much that it was never the fact you where alone or single that made you unhappy but instead it was everything else in your life and the idea of having someone just seemed like a way to cope with it all.

3) Educate yourself about attraction
The reason you may be single is because whatever you’ve been doing to this point in your life simply isn’t working. Many men and women have a misguided understanding of what attraction is and how it works. This is mainly due to media and parenting and when all these things we are told don’t seem to work for us we start blaming it on lack of money, looks, power, fame or some higher power just punishing us. The simple truth is everything you think you know about attraction is WRONG and once you start breaking down the laws of attraction and understanding them then your ability to attract and keep a relationship because increasingly easy. My suggestion is take the opportunity to at least read a few ebooks on attraction, they will break things down to simple and easy to understand terms and will open your mind to a different world that you desperately need right now…

Tip 1) Don’t think about it
If you see a girl and shes cute and you want to say something then don’t give yourself time to think for more than 3 seconds about the decision. As soon as you get past 3 seconds your brain will start to overload with all the possible things that may go wrong which will ultimately lead to anxiety and you’ll end up never approaching the girl.

Tip 2) Start simple
Your first goal should be to just say hello. Maybe ask for the time, or for directions… these are dead end questions but will get you comfortable just getting the words out of your mouth. The whole idea is to be comfortable and come of confident. You need to learn to walk before you can run and asking for numbers should not be your goal till you’ve at least said hello to a minimum of 100 women.

Tip 3) Watch your body language
The whole reason for the above step is to get practice and be comfortable. If you’ve been saying hello to a lot of women then make a mental of your body language when doing so. Where are your hands when talking to women? How is your body positioned? Are you standing straight or slumped? Are you facing her and looking at her? Are you fidgeting? This is important because often times we have no idea what our body is doing and if you have nervous habits women will pick up on them and will respond in a less positive way. A good idea is to mirror her body language to start.

Tip 4) Smile
It is extremely important that you smile when talking to women. Remember its not just you that has to be comfortable but they have to know your not a freak and that its safe to talk to you. A smile can disarm a persons natural defenses because its very non-threatening. Make sure you practice to smile so your not forcing or faking it. People can tell when your smile is forced.

Tip 5) Escalate
If you have the above 4 down then its time to learn about escalation and attraction. This will ensure that you can go from saying hello to number closing to actually having the girl pick up and respond positively to your call. This is to vast of a topic to discuss in one post but is essential to your progress. There are plenty of ebooks on the subject of attraction and escalation. They contain lots of great material and give step by step guides so you know what to do in just about every situation. They also contain some really good eye opening information based on scientific study, you can check it out by clicking on the links below.

1) Display high confidence
Confidence will get you everywhere with women but its important not to mistake confidence with arrogance. A confident men will beileve in himself and will never require external validation to feel good about himself.

Because a confident man doesn’t require validation to be happy he is not afraid to be rejected and is unaffected by a negative response where as a non confident guy will be distraught by rejection and will always require to be validated, this is extremely unattractive. A confident man will also not be afraid to approach and speak to women, which is CRUCIAL in order to escalate things further. The more women you approach and speak to the more women you will be able to eventually escalate to sleeping with you.

2)Display higher value
Its important the women your trying to sleep with display you as high value. What does this mean? Well it means that when a women looks or thinks about you she THINKS you are something of importance or at the very least more important/exciting/outgoing (etc etc) than her. You can also display higher value by having a woman qualify herself to you… this means saying things like “I love soccer, have you ever been to any games?” this is just an example. It’s a form of qualifying the woman because now she will be answering with “yes, I love soccer” or “no, but I always wanted to” and once you get a few of these she will start thinking you have a ton in common and will subconsciously start thinking she must really be into you.

3)Learn about the ins and outs of attraction
The above two things are important but are only fractions of whats available out there that can be used to your advantage. There are very few men who actually understand attraction but those who do have tremendous success with women. Do yourself a favor and pick up and ebook or two on the topic. Ebooks uncover many secret weapons you can use and are gold mines of information that will have you sleeping with so many women that you will eventually get tired of it. That’s how easy it is once you know how it works…

Tip 1) Wear clothes that make sense
If your short then its crucial to wear clothes that fit your body. Stay away from anything baggy because it will make you wider and appear shorter. Wear vertical patterns and avoid horizontal patterns on your t-shirts and other clothing because it will make you appear shorter. Wear shoes with higher platforms but don’t go overboard, just a bit here will definitely make a difference.

Tip 2) Put on some muscle
The advantage of being shorter is that its much easier to put on muscle because your body is more compacted. If you put on some muscles you can actually appear taller and muscles in general are something women find attractive on a men. Again not all women but most will prefer it. Its also important that you do not bulk up to the point where you look like a freak, over the top muscular men become unattractive.. think toned rather than bulky.

Tip 3) Its not about height
It really isn’t about height… You can be short, tall, fat, skinny or straight up ugly and still succeed with women. Women are attracted to men who can make them *****FEEL***** different emotions. If you learn how to manipulate and control a womens emotions then she will ultimately be very attracted to you. Take this opportunity to learn more about attraction and womens emotions and read some material on the subject. There are a ton of good ebooks that will reveal step by step information on exactly how to use these exploits to your advantage…

To date sexy women and to actually keep them has a lot more to do with confidence than anything else.

Women are extremely attracted to confidence. This is no secret but many men will confuse confidence with arrogance or think they are confident when in reality lack the understanding of what confidence really is.

So what is confidence? Confidence is basically a man who believes in himself and does not require external validation to feel good about himself. A confident man will be just as happy alone as he is when he has a woman. This is KEY to getting women to like you because the reason so many fail is they start to PROVE and try to WIN over the love which backfires on them because its very unattractive. If your confident you won’t waste time on women who do not like you back because you’ll just move on and to the next and eventually land a woman that will like you.

Confidence is only one part of the equation but its definitely a big chunk. I highly recommend you read some books on attraction because they will delve much deeper into the subject and give you a step by step guide to getting women to like you…

Tip 1) Take action
Many guys say they want a girlfriend and think about it all the time, but take zero action when it comes to actually doing something that may land you a girlfriend. There is a complete process involved when meeting girls and it starts with saying hello. A girlfriend is not just going to fall in your lap so take action and surround yourself with as much woman as you possibly can, this will get the ball rolling.

Tip 2) Gain Confidence
You need to talk to as many girls as you possibly can. This takes a lot of confidence since many men struggle and get nervous with simply saying hello, but the only way to be more confident is to practice and get past those fears. The more you do it the easier it will get and the less nervous you will be, eventually talking to girls will be a breeze and you’ll be a lot more likely to get a better reaction from them.

Tip 3) Learn about attraction
It is appalling how many men know nothing about attraction and what women find attractive. In todays society men are extremely timid and will act extra nice to get a womans attention. They are needy and desperate and think that if they get a 6 pack and a nice car that women will fall over heels for them. This is everything that is wrong with men today… do not be one of these guys. Take some time and read a few ebooks on attraction and how it works and you’ll start realizing that all those things you’ve been programmed to think are completely false and used by women to basically control men. Take control back and you will have no problem getting a girlfriend.

Most men fall into the trap of thinking that women only like men who are physically attractive. This is true to a small extent. Physical appearance will get your foot in the door but there a plenty of good looking guys out there with no girlfriends and plenty of ugly men who are happy and dating beautiful women.

So what is the secret behind this? Fortunately for 90% of men out there physical appearance is not the defining attribute for a woman to like a man. In fact, its a small reason why women are attracted to men. The more important factor is confidence… confidence will get you 10 times further then looks ever will.

Confident men will not be afraid of approach or rejection. They will not apologize unless the apology is warranted. They are not arrogant and full of themselves but they will never bend over for the will of the woman. Confident men know that regardless of if they have a girl or if they don’t they will be on top of the world… and women can pick on this as well - ultimately they want this type of man in their life.

It is also hard to fake confidence and should be considered a skill that you train. At first you approaching will seem like an act of confidence but the whole style/approach and follow through may come of very nervous and unconfident but thats OK! because rejection will happen even to the most confident of men… the difference is that once your confidence is way up there no amount of rejection/failure will effect you and your ability to attract beautiful women will sky rocket.

Now confidence isn’t EVERYTHING… there are many other areas that you should be improving as well so we highly recommend reading more into attraction and exactly what makes women tick. There are a ton of good ebooks on the subject we recommend reading one or two to get up to speed.